Why can someone else’s happiness, success, beauty, or love sometimes hurt us? We may genuinely love another person—and still feel jealous when their attention turns elsewhere. We may admire someone’s success—and still feel diminished by it. We may congratulate a colleague, celebrate a sibling, encourage a child, or praise a student while quietly confronting a
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Why do marriages that have lasted for decades sometimes begin to unravel later in life? When Growth Arrives Late offers a developmental explanation for the growing phenomenon of gray divorce. Drawing on clinical psychology and the Five-Stage framework of emotional development, Roland Y. Kim, Ph.D., explores how a marriage can remain stable for many years—until
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Take me to Amazon bookstore Why Klein, Winnicott, Bion, and Fonagy Speak Different Emotional Languages Why do some psychoanalytic theories seem to contradict one another? Melanie Klein emphasizes guilt, ambivalence, and reparation. D. W. Winnicott focuses on holding, dependence, play, and the survival of the self. Wilfred Bion asks how overwhelming emotional experience becomes thinkable.
Erich Fromm occupies an unusual position in twentieth-century thought. He was a psychoanalyst, social critic, humanistic philosopher, and theorist of civilization, yet the central question running through much of his work was surprisingly simple: What does it mean for a human being to become truly free? Fromm did not assume that people naturally embrace freedom
From Defensive Independence to Developmental Integration “Not all autonomy represents the same developmental achievement. The deepest psychological question is not whether a person appears independent, but what developmental function that independence serves.” Introduction Modern psychology has long celebrated autonomy as one of the defining characteristics of maturity. Developmental psychologists describe increasing independence as healthy development.
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Dreams as Simulations of Developmental Reorganization Dreams are not random products of sleeping brains, nor merely symbolic messages from the unconscious. They are organized developmental simulations through which the mind attempts to reorganize unresolved emotional structures while preserving the continuity of the self. Introduction Since the beginning of psychology, dreams have occupied a unique place
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